Ever wondered why your spouse and children come home in such a mood, that you want to run away? Find out who and what has been happening in their other lives. With enough listening and the correct question's, you could discover that the problem that is being thrown at you - comes from outside your home. The only place we are meant to be 100% safe, is at home. So when all of a sudden, you are being attacked, accused and abused about nothing, Stop and re look before defending yourself. Guaranteed, You not at fault, but someone that does not live in your house and that you have never even met.
The whole situation is coming home and been replayed, so that your spouse or children can find a way of dealing with it in the outside world. If you find yourself over defending "You", then it will be easy to miss the other story. I normally take a back step for two or three days and review the situation before finding the solution. I have saved my self and family many a heart ache by using this method.
"When two people have a problem, Then there is no-one to find a solution. But when one person has a problem and the other person stands back - at least some one is free to find a solution." Not attacking back straight away, can some times resolve the situation quicker and keep the friendship intact. Most people feel more guilty and hurt after they have attacked some one else, especially if it is has been family.
If you know that you are not guilty of what is being said, Then it has to come from some where else ... Find it and squash it with Love, after all family is for ever.
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